Friday, October 28, 2011

Moving In Together: Part 2



The Math Teacher and I are moving in together....tomorrow.


The Uhaul has been rented. All smaller items moved. The bedroom is sort of half painted a blue that he picked out. There is a lot to do.


Hunting for an apartment was exhausting. Finding the right one was exhilarating. Moving will likely be trying. And living together???


Well, I'm starting to think living together will be insanity.


I'm not going to lie. I am nervous. Really, REAAAAALLY nervous. Like cold feet nervous. Is this how brides feel before the jaunt down the altar? Now I see why some are the runaway kind.


I'm excited to live with him. I think we are going to have fun. And fight. And be happy. But...


Living apart makes it easy to keep parts of ourselves and our lives and our routines apart too. His mess annoys me, but before it was his mess in his place. Now it'll be his mess in our place. In my place. But still his place. He has so many pieces of big, bulky, ugly, do not match, old furniture and I hate them all. I feel as though are apartment doesn't have room for all his stuff. But then I know I need to make room in our apartment for him - and his stuff. ahhhhh. What if we fight all the time about cleaning and chores and forgotten locked doors or money and I become a nag and he becomes resentful? Or he doesn't understand it when I just want alone time? Or we can't decide what to watch on tv? Or I do all the cooking and he does all the eating?


I was thinking of this as a no brainer. We spend all our time together. We want to be together. It's convenient, its fun, its exciting, its an adventure.


But the reality has sent in. And I am nervous. And I am scared. And I am definitely having second thoughts. Eep.

11 comments:

Jolene said...

I totally understand. Completely worried about some semblance of me time vs. us time and all that. But trust me, two months in and all of those fears as quelled. Read my 'learning to live together' series (in my favorites section) on what I have learned so far ;-) And I am SO EXCITED for you!! this is awesome. good luck with the move!!!

Jolene said...

(not to self promote at all!) ;-)

crazytownusa said...

let it evolve naturally. it's a good opportunity to see that this will work, and test your own flexibility. it's crazy the things we do (and overlook) for love.

Kissing and Other Disasters said...

I think it is a good sign that you are over thinking the living with a dude thing... and when the little things turn out not so bad you'll be happy you did it.

good luck!

-K

Anonymous said...

Of course you're nervous. You moved in with him way too soon. Too quick. Too desperate for something after the Unicorn.

Toddy said...

Jolene- thanks for the support!

Crazytownusa- i love first timecommenters. Good advice!

Kissing Disasters- it makes me feel better to think its ok to feel nervous

Anonymous- thanks for the thoughts but of courseId have to disagree. MT came after me not the other way around. I wasnt desperate for anyone. I just got lucky that the unicorn was the wrong guy and the rebound guy was the right guy. Notice how there are no fantasy posts about are amaaaaazing dates or cliche kisses? Because he's the real deal and we're a real couple. And I'm happy. (really). Life is for living. Thanks for reading...

suki said...

Just remember to communicate. :)

IntrigueMe said...

You will be fine if you talk about this stuff immediately and set expectations. Who is going to do what? Talk it through!

vvk said...

So Saturday wasn't the greatest day for moving - slushy snow doesn't really make anything all that much fun... but how'd it go?

I wish you luck and I hope both of you can make this work for and with each other... :-)

D said...

Being nervous is okay- you're taking a risk! It could fail or it could be amazing! Just go with it and trust your gut.

Toddy said...

Suki-Talk it through!! got it. thanks! you do seem like you have a very solid relationship so I trust your advice.

IntrigueMe- I will probably do most of the cleaning. but he will have to go out in the cold for breakfast and give me massages. I think I can live with this. *wink*

vvk-Thanks for the well wishes. saturday was NOT a great day for moving at all but it went as well as it could. I'll let you know more in my next post.

D- agreed. it could fail. things in life do. relationships, marriages, jobs, friendships, car batteries et al. We are both pretty mature (as we arent exactly a young couple) and both of comfortable means. So if it doesn't work out its not like we cant find somewhere else to live or other furniture to sleep and sit on. Its definitely worth the risk and I'm excited to do it