Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Moving In Together - Part 1: Boys are Dirty



As if moving in together didn't have enough challenges, I'd like to grope about two things:


1) Boys are Dirty - this morning I went into the bathroom to brush my teeth. MT had already left for work. And there they were -- teeny tiny 1/8 centimeter hair clippings from when he'd trimmed his beard or shaved his neck or both. All. Over. My. Toothbrush!!!!!! Ahhhhhh!!!!! And what is a girl to do? MT is a regular guy. A guys guy. He's not the grossest. He's a little more grown up than that. He does try to clean. But his cleaning just isn't up to par with my cleaning. And he doesn't notice stuff like hair particles on toothbrushes. But still...its a problem. How am I going to deal with this when we are living together on a daily basis? When my toothbrush is constantly in jeopardy? I don't want to come off like a big nag or his mother. But I'm clean, he's not. This isn't something that's going to go away. It's something he needs to get better at and I need to get more easy going about-- but how to approach the discussion? how to change or adapt your ways? how to compromise? Should he have to pay for the replacement toothbrushes? Ick, ick, ick....


2) We haven't even found an apartment yet!!! And we've given notice to our current apartments as of October 1st to be out October 31st. Yikes! We had little choice given the fact that evil apartment complexes often won't let you move out early or pro-rate your rent when you do. And since after MT and I decided to move in together, we saw about 10,000 apartments posted on craigslist in 5 days and went to almost as many open houses in a week. It was, to be blunt, exhausting!!! But we were just oh so certain we'd find something in the next 5 weeks that we might as well tell our landlords so long suckers!


We put in an application to live in the basement apartment of one townhouse owned by a nice professional 30-something lobbyist who lived upstairs with a roommate. I think the two of us qualified in the sense of criminal, credit and income background checks but I think she just clicked better with another potential tenant.


Now we've put in another application since last Friday with a property management company of a very small building on a gorgeous town-house and tree lined street in the Dupont area that is slow, slow, slow. They just don't seem to have their shit together. And we want to move in! I'm so excited about painting the walls and hanging art and figuring out how to fit all our stuff in the tiny closets. We want it!! Let us in already!!


And what if they deny us too? Then...Back to the exhausting, drive all over town, write a million emails to craigslist address that don't ever get returned- drawing board. Hmph.


Wish me cleanliness and apartment approval. Until then...


Cheers,


T

10 comments:

suki said...

ew on the hairs. Ryan is better about that, but we currently have a house guest who might be shaving in the sink. :/ not excited about this. hehehe. this is WHY i can't have roommates.

vvk said...

I can confirm that it is nearly impossible to keep beard trimmings from flying all over the place. To keep them out of my tooth brush, I've started storing my brush inside my medicine cabinet. No matter how careful I am while trimming, I've still found hair 3-4 feet away from where I'm standing when I trip. I even use one of those beard trimmers that have a small vacuum built in, which helps, but not completely.

Good luck with the apartment. I should try harder to rent out my second bedroom, but finding a good roommate is a daunting task, so I keep putting it off. My bank account hates me because of this.

Vittoria said...

holy crap!! congratulations!!

IntrigueMe said...

Wow, girl! I am so glad to hear about all of this- I really liked Math Teacher and I'm soooo glad you got your shit together and realized what you were going to miss out on if you kept duping the poor guy!! Haha. Looks like it's all obviously worked out for the best, though!

So, my solution to the bathroom problem would be to find a place with both an ensuite and a master bath. Then, make him get ready in the master bath while you have the ensuite to yourself. Separate bathrooms have saved relationships everywhere. And, I don't know your financial situation but I would imagine since you'll now be paying one rent instead of two, you can afford to pay a little more for the added space.

By the way, I'm really glad you're moving into a new place together, instead of one of you moving in with the other. Fresh start's are always good!

So there is one thing... I do want to know some of the in-between!! How did this all happen??!!

xoxo

Jolene said...

oh MAN! The hair thing would drive me CRAZY!!!!! M did that at his old place, just LEFT the hair in the sink after and he knows better (usually!) not to do that in our new place. Boys are just naturally dirty, I am convinced. Good luck with finding a new place!! it IS exhausting!

Suzie Q said...

ick. I would just move your toothbrush into a cabinet or at lesat put a protective case over it. It is better to have your toothbrush away from whatever is in the air in the bathroom anyway.

I hope you find a place soon! Looking is exhausting. 2 bathrooms might be a good idea...

Alison said...

2 bathrooms is a GREAT idea, if it's a possibility. Otherwise, put your stuff out of hair-shot and resign yourself to having to live with a little bit of mess. I can tell you that the passage of time only makes little things like that more annoying, not less, so the sooner you mentally file it under "not worth fighting about," the happier you both will be.

Good luck and congratulations!!

Anonymous said...

"but we currently have a house guest who might be shaving in the sink" -- Where in the world else do you expect him to shave?!? Normal people shave in the sink...

Toddy said...

To anonymous - I expect ANY AND ALL SHAVERS to shave in the sink. But I also expect they take a little bit of toilet paper or facial tissue and wipe the stray hairs up. Too much to ask? I think not. I have long hair and it gets all over the bath tub and shower. I take a little bit of toilet paper after EVERY shower and grab the stray hairs and toss in the bathroom trashcan. Its just good manners and good roommate behavior and makes keeping the place clean oh so much easier in the long wrong. Cheers, T.

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